I have a friend who is going through a very nasty divorce. Within 3 weeks of moving out she found out she had to have major surgery. She is having a very rough time.
She does an "exercise" that she believes channels all her struggles and anger to him so that he "suffers" like she does. She says she visualizes herself breathing in peace then blowing out all her suffering into his conscious mind.
I don't think this is helping her at all, it keeps her from healing.
What do you think and how can I help her let go?
Worried Friend
Dear Worried Friend,
You are absolutely right!
Whenever a person sends hate, all the hate goes through the sender first, causing her to suffer more.
Sending anger this way may not cause the target person any harm, but will definitely cause the sender more problems.
The best way to get even is to show your ex-husband how happy and successful you are without him.
Instead of wasting time and energy injuring herself, I recommend your friend begin living a positive thinking life, with healthy friends.
Meditation and visualization will help her begin the healing process.
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