Hot/Cold Spirits

Dear Ruth, I just finished reading your book, They Don’t See What I See. I borrowed it from a friend who asked me to read it because of my father, who passed away almost seven years ago. My mom remarried and rebuilt our home. The only space they didn’t change was her old room that I now sleep in. After my father died I kept his ashes in an urn in my room, but it was always so hot in there and neither my mom nor I could figure out why. (Ruth: Often heat from the spirit represents a healing of the body, mind).

One day two weeks ago I was cleaning my room and moved dad’s urn and ashes into another room. Now it’s super cold in my room no matter how many layers I put over me. (Ruth: Extreme cold represents the spirit trying to make a connection with you).

Your book is the only one I have read on ghost cleaning and now I totally believe that my father’s spirit is trying to contact me. I’m a little nervous to do it. Are there any tips you have to relax my body before I attempt to connect with him? I have never really gotten over the fact that he died. Do I need to let go before I try? Or will I be able to let go when I do? And how do I know that he has/hasn’t crossed over.

Any help would be great.
Spirit Thermostat

Dear Spirit Thermostat, My hunch is your father is trying to heal you or someone he loves through you. When a spirit emits a lot of heat, it is generally for a physical or emotional healing attempt. Cold sensations get more intense when the spirit is trying to communicate with you. Relax your body by thinking about happy, loving times you had together. Fear is the enemy. Love is the way. It is your father who won’t let go till you hear what he is trying to tell you. Pray for his peace of mind, and then ask him yes/no questions: do you want to tell me something… do you need me to tell Mom something… do you need help letting go? Then be still and listen to what comes into your thoughts. You may need to do this a few times before you understand. Just stay in a prayerful state of mind to reduce fears. Bless all your loved ones,

Spirit Power

Hi Ruth.

Your book inspired me to try to reach my husband in the spirit world. He passed away a couple of years ago, and my three children and I are still having a hard time. I’m not scared at all, just need to make the spirit connection.

I have read many books, taken classes, but as hard as I try, nothing I do helps me see or talk to my deceased spouse.

I am hoping you can tell me what to do. I need to communicate with him. I have so many unanswered questions.

Mother of Three

Be Careful What You Ask For

Dear Mother of Three,
A dear friend of mine wanted to see her mother, who had passed away five years earlier. Finally one night she awoke at 2AM and SAW her mother’s ghost at the foot of her bed. She screamed, “Go away, I can’t handle this.” She covered her head with the blanket and her mother left, never to return. She regretted her outburst, but it was too late.

You can avoid making the same mistake as my dear friend by focusing on what you want to say to your husband. Was he a good role model or an absent one? If you could have one more day with him, what would you want that day to include, a loving thanks, an apology, what you didn’t get to say before he died? Focus on these thoughts while gazing at his photo.
Speaking to a loved one in spirit is easy, especially when the spirit wants to talk to you too.

Everyone wants to SEE, but they don’t believe they can, so they don’t. You say you’re not afraid, but I suspect you are fearful of seeing a ghost.

You need to find inner peace with your spouse. Believe he can hear your thoughts and feel your love. He is reaching out to you like a radio signal. Trust there is a reason why you’re so consumed with thoughts of him.

The more you feel his energy, the closer you will get to seeing him. At first you will think you’re making up what you hear, until one day what you hear makes sense and you’ll know the voice you’re hearing is his. Then you’ll never doubt again.

Be Careful What You Ask For

Spirit Power

Hi Ruth.

Your book inspired me to try to reach my husband in the spirit world. He passed away a couple of years ago, and my three children and I are still having a hard time. I’m not scared at all, just need to make the spirit connection.

I have read many books, taken classes, but as hard as I try, nothing I do helps me see or talk to my deceased spouse.

I am hoping you can tell me what to do. I need to communicate with him. I have so many unanswered questions.

Mother of Three

Be Careful What You Ask For

Dear Mother of Three,

A dear friend of mine wanted to see her mother, who had passed away five years earlier. Finally one night she awoke at 2AM and SAW her mother’s ghost at the foot of her bed. She screamed, “Go away, I can’t handle this.” She covered her head with the blanket and her mother left, never to return. She regretted her outburst, but it was too late.

You can avoid making the same mistake as my dear friend by focusing on what you want to say to your husband. Was he a good role model or an absent one? If you could have one more day with him, what would you want that day to include, a loving thanks, an apology, what you didn’t get to say before he died? Focus on these thoughts while gazing at his photo.

Speaking to a loved one in spirit is easy, especially when the spirit wants to talk to you too.

Everyone wants to SEE, but they don’t believe they can, so they don’t. You say you’re not afraid, but I suspect you are fearful of seeing a ghost.

You need to find inner peace with your spouse. Believe he can hear your thoughts and feel your love. He is reaching out to you like a radio signal. Trust there is a reason why you’re so consumed with thoughts of him.

The more you feel his energy, the closer you will get to seeing him. At first you will think you’re making up what you hear, until one day what you hear makes sense and you’ll know the voice you’re hearing is his. Then you’ll never doubt again.