Ruth Berger - an ordinary woman who does extraordinary things.

Psychic Scam

2009-01-02T08:10:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I recently received a letter from a psychic in a foreign country who said she wanted to change my destiny from one of poor fortune to a higher financial level. In this day of ID Theft I was not as eager to believe that she had picked my name at random from all the names in the United States. She said there would be no fee but the last paragraph said how much she'd spent already - and any financial gift would be appreciated. What do you think?

Wondering

Dear Wondering,

Pay attention to what you're feeling. A stranger has told you bad luck is ahead unless you do what she/he tells you to do.

This scam has been around for decades. Be aware of the words he uses to frighten you; urgent... bad luck... important... take action immediately or something terrible will befall you... something financially or personally will happen to you in the next few weeks unless you do something important NOW!

Do not send money, or give any more information to this person. Use your common sense and intelligence. A person, you've never met, has contacted you to warn you of an upcoming calamity. Be careful.

Ruth

Hot/Cold Spirits

2008-12-19T07:27:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth, I just finished reading your book, They Don’t See What I See. I borrowed it from a friend who asked me to read it because of my father, who passed away almost seven years ago. My mom remarried and rebuilt our home. The only space they didn’t change was her old room that I now sleep in. After my father died I kept his ashes in an urn in my room, but it was always so hot in there and neither my mom nor I could figure out why. (Ruth: Often heat from the spirit represents a healing of the body, mind).

One day two weeks ago I was cleaning my room and moved dad’s urn and ashes into another room. Now it’s super cold in my room no matter how many layers I put over me. (Ruth: Extreme cold represents the spirit trying to make a connection with you).

Your book is the only one I have read on ghost cleaning and now I totally believe that my father’s spirit is trying to contact me. I’m a little nervous to do it. Are there any tips you have to relax my body before I attempt to connect with him? I have never really gotten over the fact that he died. Do I need to let go before I try? Or will I be able to let go when I do? And how do I know that he has/hasn’t crossed over.

Any help would be great.
Spirit Thermostat

Dear Spirit Thermostat, My hunch is your father is trying to heal you or someone he loves through you. When a spirit emits a lot of heat, it is generally for a physical or emotional healing attempt. Cold sensations get more intense when the spirit is trying to communicate with you. Relax your body by thinking about happy, loving times you had together. Fear is the enemy. Love is the way. It is your father who won’t let go till you hear what he is trying to tell you. Pray for his peace of mind, and then ask him yes/no questions: do you want to tell me something… do you need me to tell Mom something… do you need help letting go? Then be still and listen to what comes into your thoughts. You may need to do this a few times before you understand. Just stay in a prayerful state of mind to reduce fears. Bless all your loved ones,

Spirit Power

2008-12-11T09:14:00.000-08:00

Hi Ruth.

Your book inspired me to try to reach my husband in the spirit world. He passed away a couple of years ago, and my three children and I are still having a hard time. I’m not scared at all, just need to make the spirit connection.

I have read many books, taken classes, but as hard as I try, nothing I do helps me see or talk to my deceased spouse.

I am hoping you can tell me what to do. I need to communicate with him. I have so many unanswered questions.

Mother of Three

Be Careful What You Ask For

Dear Mother of Three,
A dear friend of mine wanted to see her mother, who had passed away five years earlier. Finally one night she awoke at 2AM and SAW her mother’s ghost at the foot of her bed. She screamed, “Go away, I can’t handle this.” She covered her head with the blanket and her mother left, never to return. She regretted her outburst, but it was too late.

You can avoid making the same mistake as my dear friend by focusing on what you want to say to your husband. Was he a good role model or an absent one? If you could have one more day with him, what would you want that day to include, a loving thanks, an apology, what you didn’t get to say before he died? Focus on these thoughts while gazing at his photo.
Speaking to a loved one in spirit is easy, especially when the spirit wants to talk to you too.

Everyone wants to SEE, but they don’t believe they can, so they don’t. You say you’re not afraid, but I suspect you are fearful of seeing a ghost.

You need to find inner peace with your spouse. Believe he can hear your thoughts and feel your love. He is reaching out to you like a radio signal. Trust there is a reason why you’re so consumed with thoughts of him.

The more you feel his energy, the closer you will get to seeing him. At first you will think you’re making up what you hear, until one day what you hear makes sense and you’ll know the voice you’re hearing is his. Then you’ll never doubt again.

Mysterious Phone Calls

2008-10-12T03:51:00.000-07:00

Dear Ruth,

Strangest thing happened to me last evening while talking to my cousin in Georgia. We ended our call about 8PM because he needed to go to bed.

Around midnight I was talking to someone in California and kept getting beeped on the other line. The called ID said Georgia, but no number or name. When I switched over, all I got was crackling and static sounds. This kept happening and every time I'd get the same noises.

I waited till the morning and tried calling my cousin again, who said he didn't call during the night.

Before I get spooked again, can you give me an explanation for this?

Haunted

Dear Haunted,

Your experience leads me to believe you have a problem with the mechanical aspects of your phone. Often people will call the same phone number a few times thinking they’ve dialed wrong.

Before I assume someone from the other side was trying to contact you, I called the phone company and posed your experience to the man in charge of customer service who gave me the following ideas;

either you or your cousin had not hung up the phone correctly...
you may have had a cross connection with another phone...
if your cousin to has the busy signal call back service this would explain why your phone kept ringing every five minutes and explain why his state name was on your caller ID.
torn wire, trouble in the phone lines, a storm between your location and the caller’s home, the battery on your phone needs replacement, etc.

If it was a spirit calling, she or he will call again and again. If this doesn’t happen, assume you had a bad connection.

Let me know what happens.

Speech Training for Toddler

2008-09-30T04:41:00.000-07:00

Dear Client,

Patience is the first thought I had about you after reading your 2 year-old daughter's speech question regarding her breathing interfering with her verbal communication.

You reminded me of how much patience I needed to help train my 2-1/2 year-old-child speak and breathe correctly so she could be understood by others. Her speech was garbled because of the cleft pallet she was born with.

Her speech therapist suggested I teach my daughter how to speak correctly through repetition and patience.

The theory was to begin a daily routine of saying unhurriedly and lovingly the same word correctly over and over whenever I fed her. She was a very slow eater due to the amount of food that inadvertently went through her cleft pallet instead of being chewed and swallowed.

Sometimes I’d sing the word or say it in a higher or lower voice to get her attention. Her eyes were on me all the time when she ate. She began to speak in my tone of voice, and breathe in and out like me.

Three months later she repeated the word correctly and clearly. I was ecstatic and wanted to shout to everyone that my child got it. Anyone could understand her.

In the months that followed I began to utter new words and, instead of three months she’d repeat the new expressions in a week or two.

I still required lots of patience but hope filled me with enthusiasm and renewed energy.

Good luck. Thank you for writing.

Be Careful What You Ask For

2008-09-27T21:05:00.000-07:00

Spirit Power

Hi Ruth.

Your book inspired me to try to reach my husband in the spirit world. He passed away a couple of years ago, and my three children and I are still having a hard time. I’m not scared at all, just need to make the spirit connection.

I have read many books, taken classes, but as hard as I try, nothing I do helps me see or talk to my deceased spouse.

I am hoping you can tell me what to do. I need to communicate with him. I have so many unanswered questions.

Mother of Three

Be Careful What You Ask For

Dear Mother of Three,

A dear friend of mine wanted to see her mother, who had passed away five years earlier. Finally one night she awoke at 2AM and SAW her mother’s ghost at the foot of her bed. She screamed, “Go away, I can’t handle this.” She covered her head with the blanket and her mother left, never to return. She regretted her outburst, but it was too late.

You can avoid making the same mistake as my dear friend by focusing on what you want to say to your husband. Was he a good role model or an absent one? If you could have one more day with him, what would you want that day to include, a loving thanks, an apology, what you didn’t get to say before he died? Focus on these thoughts while gazing at his photo.

Speaking to a loved one in spirit is easy, especially when the spirit wants to talk to you too.

Everyone wants to SEE, but they don’t believe they can, so they don’t. You say you’re not afraid, but I suspect you are fearful of seeing a ghost.

You need to find inner peace with your spouse. Believe he can hear your thoughts and feel your love. He is reaching out to you like a radio signal. Trust there is a reason why you’re so consumed with thoughts of him.

The more you feel his energy, the closer you will get to seeing him. At first you will think you’re making up what you hear, until one day what you hear makes sense and you’ll know the voice you’re hearing is his. Then you’ll never doubt again.

Speech Training

2008-08-29T05:23:00.000-07:00

Dear Client,

Your email question reminded me of how much patience I needed to help train my 2-1/2-year-old daughter (just a few months older than your daughter), to speak and breathe correctly so she could be understood by others. Her words were garbled because of the cleft pallet she was born with.

My speech therapist taught me to begin a daily routine of saying unhurriedly and lovingly the same word correctly over and over whenever I felt my child. She was a very slow eater due to the amount of food that inadvertently went through her cleft pallet instead of being chewed and swallowed.

Sometimes I'd sing the word or say it in a higher or lower voice to get her attention. Her eyes were on me all the time when she ate. She began to speak in my tone of voice, and breathe in and out just like me.

Three months later she repeated the word correctly and clearly for the first time. I was ecstatic and wanted to shout to everyone that my child got it. Anyone could understand her.

In the months that followed I began to utter new words, and instead of three months, she'd repeat the new expressions in a week or two.

She got faster and each time she said a new word, I was filled with hope and renewed dedication.

Today my daughter is a psychiatric nurse whose words help people deal with their depression and needs.

It is my hunch that you will one day be a fine teacher for your daughter and others.

Good luck and thank you for writing a great question.

Ruth

Why Do Men Lie?

2008-08-19T11:46:00.001-07:00

Dear Ruth,

Do men get off on lying?
Does it make them feel good?

Do they realize that we women are smarter than they are and we will always catch them?
Maybe not right away but we will. At least if you're going to try and lie, keep your stories the same. When you change your story and other people get to talking, it all comes out.

Men, learn the truth is the best even if it hurts.

How can I know instantly when my boyfriend isn't telling the truth?

Tired of Being Lied To.

There are two easy psychic techniques to know when someone isn't telling you the truth:

1. His lie makes your body suddenly feels like you're coming down with the flu; nauseous, headache, legs get weak.
Seeing a haze of darkness around the liar's mouth.

Your feedback is greatly appreciated.

Comment:
I get sick to my stomach when someone lies to me.
Dana

Murdered Victim Wants Killer to be Caught ASAP

2008-07-26T06:57:00.000-07:00

Dear Ruth,

Recently I saw the ghost of a murdered victim I’d read about in the newspaper.

He told me how he was killed and who did it. Now he wants me to go to the police and tell them what he said.

I’m afraid the police will think I’m crazy. Why did he come to me? What should I do?

Dear AZ,

Ask yourself why did this ghost contact you?

Perhaps you’re a devotee of the TV show, Ghost Whisperer. Maybe your heart opened when you read about this man.

In either case, my hunch is that your ghost is afraid that someone close to him, may be killed next by the same person, unless he is caught.

I suggest you write out all the details he gave you, and give the information to the police, telling them what I wrote in the above paragraph. If you feel comfortable enough, you might add, “I’ll be glad to help you in anyway I can”.

Once you’ve done all the above, pray for the deceased to go to the light/heaven to find peace.

Paranormal Experience

2008-07-14T09:15:00.000-07:00

A Spirit Message?

Dear Ruth,

I don't know if you can help me but for the past week i cant get this uneasy feeling to go away.

I thought maybe it was my aunt trying to reach me from the spirit world. I'm new to this feeling and it is starting to scare me.

I told my mom who read your book and she told me to tell the spirit to go into the light, and that her place was not here, but I still have that feeling. Is something wrong with me?

Kris

Dear Kris,

It is always wise to pay attention to your sixth sense and to check around for anything amiss. Like an animal in the woods, use your senses to note where the uneasy feeling is coming from.

My hunch is you froze and didn't look and listen. Now it's time for you to discover if the uneasy feeling is from outside or inside of you. First check out if what you're feeling is coming from anything or anyone nearby. If you can't see or hear a reason for your discomfort say your aunt's first name out loud to sense if this feels right. Then ask her what she wants. If it is your aunt, a feeling of loving tenderness will remove your uneasiness. Trust what you sense in your head.

If what you hear feels right, do it. If not, firmly tell the ghost to leave.

The next time you get this uneasy feeling and another name comes to you, say that name aloud.

Your mediumship abilities may be opening.

Picking Up the Pieces

2008-06-16T14:16:00.000-07:00

For those of you who have wondered why I haven’t been in touch in recent weeks, there is a simple explanation.

In March I contacted the Flu, which affected my brain and kept me in a semi conscious state for several weeks, with periods of hyper activities. During17 days in the hospital undergoing about every test imaginable, it was determined something called A. D. E. M. had removed some of the protection around my brain.

Although I spent many hours tossing and turning and dislodging intravenous lines trying to crawl out of bed, I was completely unaware of my surroundings or the people around me. It was only after the administration of steroids that I began to recover and was transfered to a rehabilitation facility.

While at the rehab center I got a psychic message that playing the piano would heal me. Fortunately there was a piano available in the activities room that I could use. A few days later the activity director asked me if could play for the residents and staff the following week. It was the best concert I'd ever given.

Using the information I gathered from the other patients, and the personal insights I discovered during these periods along with my psychic and musical background, gave me new ways of dealing with these problems.

A second psychic message encouraged me to write a book incorporating all the information to help others who were coping with problems of confusion, apprehension and memory loss, and to be of additional therapy for me.

The Healing Power of Music

At this opportunity I would like to thank all the wellwishers, who prayed for my recovery, during this period. Because of the healing help I got from playing the piano, I plan on writing a book using the information I received from other patients and medical personnel implementing music as therapy.

What am I doing here in this predicament?

2008-06-15T12:23:00.000-07:00

Dear Ruth,

Why do I keep having dreams similar to this?

I'm standing in the lobby of a grand hotel wearing only my silk robe?

Not knowing how to get back to my room, I just stand there bewildered.

A man wearing hotel identification approached me asking if I needed help. Embarrassed I nodded yes and explained my situation. He turned around and found some clothes for me to wear.

Helen

Dear Helen,

My psychic interpretation of this dream is you are doing too many things at once and not preparing adequately.

The large hotel represents a place and time where you can go in many directions, but you're not clear about where you want to go.

My suggestion is that you go slower with your decisions and prepare with more forethought.

Ruth

Book Comment

2008-06-08T12:58:00.000-07:00

Hello Ruth,

I hope you don't mind me e-mailing you, but I bought your book on line, on Amazon, and I had it posted to me yesterday and I’ve just finished your book. I have to say I loved it, I look for some books for me to develop again Spiritually, My Nan was always going to Spiritual Church, but never developed herself, and my Mother went to a closed circle to develop, so I’ve been brought up always to believe there is life after life.
I started to develop when I was around 20 years old, I made friends with a women at the closed circle I used to go to and we would practice and go to sites and practice tarot. Then when I was around 24 years old I stopped.

I’m now 34 years old, and feel pulled into wanting to be in contact with spirit again, I have no family as such, no brothers and sisters and have had a lot of life changing events happen to me over the last 3 years, and I am looking for the warmth and confidence I used to receive when I was developing in my 20's with spirit. So I’ve been looking for books for me to do it myself, and I have contacted a women in the local paper to go to a closed circle to develop again, she said they will start in February.

I just wanted to say, reading your book has lifted my mood, and gave me some hope in trying to contact spirit again, and to really thank you for writing your book.

Thank you.
Z. Green

An Old Friend Comes in a Dream

2008-03-08T04:50:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

Last night I dreamt that an old friend in a crisis, called my wife about getting together with me ASAP.

When I was in my teens, he and I were friends, but after we both met our future wives, we lost touch with one another. Then about 20 years ago, I met him in a hardware store and we talked for a few minutes.

I haven't had any communication with him. Suddenly he's in my dream with a crisis asking for me to meet him in a nearby coffee shop.

My dream ended when I got to the coffee shop and he wasn't there. What does this dream mean?

Old Friend

Dear Old Friend,

This dream can be taken literally.

My first hunch is that he's in spirit, but has a concern on the physical level, and remembered how good a friend you were.

Second hunch is that he is dying and is reviewing his life.

I feel that this dream is only the beginning of contact with this friend and that you will have either a physical or spiritual encounter with your friend.

If you have another dream about him, ask what he needs from you. Do it if you can. If you can't complete his request, turn it over to God.

Let me know what happens.

Woman Wants Ex to Suffer

2008-03-04T12:08:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I have a friend who is going through a very nasty divorce. Within 3 weeks of moving out she found out she had to have major surgery. She is having a very rough time.

She does an "exercise" that she believes channels all her struggles and anger to him so that he "suffers" like she does. She says she visualizes herself breathing in peace then blowing out all her suffering into his conscious mind.

I don't think this is helping her at all, it keeps her from healing.

What do you think and how can I help her let go?

Worried Friend

Dear Worried Friend,

You are absolutely right!

Whenever a person sends hate, all the hate goes through the sender first, causing her to suffer more.

Sending anger this way may not cause the target person any harm, but will definitely cause the sender more problems.

The best way to get even is to show your ex-husband how happy and successful you are without him.

Instead of wasting time and energy injuring herself, I recommend your friend begin living a positive thinking life, with healthy friends.

Meditation and visualization will help her begin the healing process.

Free Psychic Readings?

2008-03-01T12:22:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

A coworker shared with me how beneficial it was for her getting help from a psychic guide after hearing me complain constantly about my money and social life problems. Because of financial problems that I’ve been having for a while, I decided to give it a try and searched the web for free readings.

I am new to this phenomena and was looking forward to informative responses. Instead I was told that my life indeed should be better but it is not because of negative energy, black cloud, and one even said that I was cursed. This all just frustrated me. I realized now how naïve for me to think that someone would share valid information for free.

I am reading self help books and feel that I am making progress in my life, but I also feel a little confused about my ordeal. I would like to ask you if you could recommend a spiritual medium that you trust that I can see for advice here in Chicago. By the way, I came across your name from an article. Thank you very much for your time.

Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

Go to my website www.ruthberger.com and check to see if you feel good about contacting me. I am in Chicago, but only do phone readings.

Put your psychic ability to work and trust your gut instincts.

Help! My Friend Wants to Kill Herself

2008-02-28T09:31:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I am worried about my friend. I call her many times a day fearing she's taken her life. I keep trying to come up with new ideas to solve her problem, but all she wants to talk about is how unhappy she is, and how she wishes her life was over.

When she doesn't use my ideas, I get discouraged and drained. I'm getting just like her, dwelling on her problems is overwhelming to my family and me. I think she needs a therapist, but she refuses to see one. What should I do?

Overwhelmed

Dear Overwhelmed,

You are a caring, empathic woman, who is taking on the emotions of your friend. The more you listen to her, the less confidence you have. She has a problem that only she can fix. She needs professional help on a psychological level. You are not a therapist and that’s what she needs.

Only she can save herself and all you’re doing is giving her the opportunity to dwell on her fears. It’s time to severe the tie.

Think of her as a small child (6) who has awakened from a nightmare. You’re trying to save her from drowning, but neither of you knows how to swim in such deep water. If she doesn’t want to get help, give her the phone number of a suicide hot line. They’re more trained than you are to talk about suicide prevention.

Be strong and take charge of your thinking.

Seeing Auras vs Projecting Auras

2008-02-24T07:44:00.000-08:00

Hi, Ruth,

When one is learning to see auras with their eyes open, how can one be sure they are actually seeing another’s aura and not just a color that they are projecting onto that person?

For example, a paranoid person will project onto another person the intent to do harm when the other person has no such intent. I have people tell me they see certain colors “on” me that I know in my heart of hearts just can’t be right, and I feel that this is their own projection or inability to see.

I’m thinking there must be a place that one “gets to” or evolves into where one can see auras clearly; a pure place where you can see someone’s aura irrespective of how you feel about that person.

At this point I began to feel like a dog chasing its tail.

Running in Circles

Dear Running in Circles,

Seeing auras is similar to seeing a work of art that satisfies your mind, your heart, and your soul. It feels right.

Projecting the color you think the person might be, doesn't give you a feeling of satisfaction. Rather, you question your seeing, and generally want to change the color to lighter, darker, something else, because you know the color isn't right. Knowing something is different than guessing.

At one of my classes, three students guessed my aura differently and they were all wrong. They were projecting, not seeing. You cannot argue with what they see, only how you feel. Light colors are happy feelings, dark colors imply discomfort, worry, and possibly anger.

When someone guesses your aura color, check it out with how you feel. That will give you a better sense of what they're seeing or not seeing.

Aura seeing requires a balance in your emotions and feelings.

Open Again to Spirits

2008-02-15T04:22:00.000-08:00

Hello Ruth,

Reading your book has lifted my mood, and given me some hope in trying to contact spirit again, and to really thank you for writing your book.

I look for books for me to develop again Spiritually, My Nan was always going to Spiritual Church, but never developed herself, and my Mother went to a closed circle to develop, so I've been brought up always to believe there is life after life.

I started to develop when i was around 20 years old, and made friends with a women at the closed circle i used to go to and we would practice and go to sites and practice tarot acts. Then when I was around 24 years old I stopped.

Im now 34 years old, and feel pulled into wanting to be in contact with spirit again, I have no family as such, no brothers and sisters and have had a lot of life changing events happen to me over the last 3 years, and I am looking for the warmth and confidence I used to receive when I was developing in my 20's with spirit.

I've been looking for books for me to do it myself, and I have contacted a women in the local paper to go to a closed circle to develop again, that will start in this month.

Open Again

Dear Open Again,

I am delighted that you are returning to a higher level of study. Often this happens after people feel alone and lost. Meditation in a healthy group of women gives great solace and understanding of the past and present.

My prayers go with you.

Father's Face in Dreams Precedes Crisis

2008-02-13T03:26:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

Whenever I dream of my deceased father, something terrible happens within a few days.

I've grown fearful of seeing him in my dreams.

I will always love my father, but I don't want him to scare me any more.

Can you help me?

Loving Daughter

Dear Loving Daughter,

My hunch is that your father is trying to prepare you for what is about to happen, but neither you nor he knows how to do this.

The next time you have a scary dream with your father, ask him, "Why are you in my dream?"

Trust that you will hear the answer in your mind. Know that he loves you very much.

Then ask him, "Why me?"

Lastly ask him, "What do you want me to do?"

The answer will come through your thoughts.

When you hear the answer, sit quietly for a minute or two to contemplate if this is something you can do. If it is, do it as soon as possible.

If it is something you feel you cannot do, turn the request over to a higher power.

For example: "Dear God. I can't do what my father asks, but you can. Thank you."

Then trust and let go of your fears.

You have the beginnings of a medium and can do a lot of good.

Bless you.

Keep Dreaming About My Home Needing Repairs

2008-02-07T03:25:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth, I've had the same dream over and over for years about living in a house and needing to fix it.

First it had a big hole in the ceiling, then the floor needed to be replaced.

Through the years I repaired the walls, the windows, the basement, and the attic. I've had this dream a hundred times and after 20 years, I think my house is finally in good shape.

What does this dream mean?

Dreamer

Dear Dreamer,

Two interpretations of your home needing repairs dream are:

1. the home represents your life, the roof your connection to a higher consciousness, the floor represents how well grounded you are.

2. the home represents your faith, what is broken that needs fixing and how far you've come.

Seems you've come a long way.

How Can I Tell If Someone Is Taking Drugs

2008-02-05T01:08:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I moved to the United States a few years ago from a small village in Europe. I am terrified that my 13 year-old-son will get involved with the wrong friends and use drugs.

What can I do to prevent this from happening? Recently he said that he is going out with friends from school that I've never met.

How will I know if his friends are good for him or taking drugs?

Worried Mother

Dear Worried Mother,

Ask your son to tell you the names of this friends, one at a time.

If your body gets a sick feeling when you hear a name, your intuition is telling you to be alert.

Listen for another name and note if your body feels worse or better.

Each time you hear a name, the worse you feel, the more likely the person with the name, will not be the type of boy you want your son to be friends with. Pay attention and take courage. Invite the boy over and listen to him.

The more you practice the above exercise, the more you will know who to trust and who not to trust.

Send me your results.

How Can I Stop Getting Burned Out?

2008-02-01T05:05:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth, Two good friends have lost a family member and are suffering from guilt, and depression. I am getting burned out listening while trying to help them.

Should I surround myself with the the white light to protect me?

What can I do to stop taking on their emotional pains?

Burned Out

Dear Burned Out,

You're trying to hard to solve their problems. All that does is make you feel helpless.

Your friends are hurting. Love them, pray for them, but don't become like them. If you do you'll get sucked up by their negative energies.

There are underlying reasons for grief and pain. Good listening will help you get past what they say and often they'll tell you what they need to do.

When they say something that sounds right, encourage them.

The world is going through a terrible change. We are all a part of this change.

Surround yourself with positive affirmations to stay afloat.

Blessings.

Bullies

2008-01-25T03:22:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I have a perpetual problem with vicious people anywhere I happen to work. I can't keep a job because of it and I'm convinced there's something in my makeup that either creates or attracts it. I am a very kind person, understand when people need listening to or are upset, so I don't understand why I end up working with people who could be considered sociopathic.

They don't seem to care about others and are utterly cruel to others, and I for some reason perpetually end up working right next to them. It's not that my co-worker is having a bad day. That I would understand and empathize. I end up having to leave each job, only to go to another job where it is again.

I've now lost four important jobs for the same reason. I'm frightened and don't know what to do. Can you advise me?

Lost

Dear Lost,

My hunch is that your psychic scanner is always open to the energies of others. You're like a surgeon who can't stop operating.

Going to another place of employment doesn't lessen or solve the problem. It is necessary for you to understand that you are letting the negative thoughts of others consume you.

Before going to work in the morning, surround yourself with mental sunlight, and expand it to cover you and the people in your workplace.

Every time you allow yourself to get infected with their negative vibrations, go to the bathroom, wash your hands to cleanse their energies, and return to the mental image of sunlight surrounding you.

Generally this sunlight seeing works fast, but you must control your thoughts, to make this work instantly.

Let me know your results.

To Be Intuitive or Not To Be

2008-01-19T01:11:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I am an 18-year-old girl who wants to know how my deceased grandmother is. She used to tell me about her dreams, seeing angles and speaking with them. The morning we found her unconscious in her bed, all her legal papers were laid out on her dresser signed and ready to go, as if she knew something was going to happen. I realize all of this may be chalked up to coincidence or irony, but things progressed from there.

When my grandmother was placed into a nursing home, my parents sold her home and we moved to another house and set up a bedroom to look exactly like her old bedroom. She came home and passed away soon after. I lived in her bedroom for the next three years, and developed severe depression and anxiety with no real cause. I was treated with medications and still no relief. It got worse and worse to the point where I attempted suicide, twice.

Since I moved, all my suicidal feelings have been relinquished. My dad thinks there may have been negative energy in the house related to my grandmother’s furnishings, and purchased some dried white sage, and said to light the end on fire and let the smoke surround the room and it will rid the place of evil spirits. It seems different, but not much.

I want to be intuitive and if I have this gift, I don't want it to go to waste.

Granddaughter

Dear Granddaughter,

You wanted to sleep in your grandmother's bedroom, so you could be close to a woman who loved you very much. She was very frightened of her psychic gifts, and you have absorbed her fears. You need to balance your emotional and spiritual connection, less you draw more negative energies to you.

First you need healing training to rectify the harm that has caused you to have emotional problems, and to develop your psychic connection with God.

Reading books such as:

Prayer, Faith and Healing: Cure Your body, Heal Your Mind and Restore Your Soul, by Kenneth Winston Caine, Brian Paul and Bernie S. Siegel, and
Healing with Spirit by Caroline Myss will help you develop your intuitive talents.

With patience and time, you will become a wise healing psychic.

Where is My Off Button?

2008-01-08T05:52:00.000-08:00

Dear Off,

I signed up on your website and read your blog. I did not see where I could find the "off button" for my psychic ability.

It's all been so unpleasant, frustrating and confusing that if someone could actually tell me where the off button is, I would gladly press it once and for all. It's always about negative upcoming events, never once have the messages had any nice tips for me. I never once saw anything nice coming my way.

I still would like to know why this happens to me, but if an expedited means of turning it all off is available, I would skip the rest and go there. If you could direct me to a book, a chapter, a direction or anything else that that would answer any of this, I would be greatly obliged.

Turn Me Off

Dear Turn Me Off,

Your psychic gifts are like a runaway train. There is a reason you are getting these messages. You have been chosen to help someone.

Instead of trying to turn them off, believe you can direct them to come to you at a certain time, 10AM/PM or another time that you can pay attention to the messages when you are fully rested. Then ask why you have been selected to deliver this message.

Secondly, when you get a message, surround yourself with the white light of the Universe, so you can see the whole picture, not just the dark part.

I have learned that every time a person goes through a dark tunnel, there is a reason. Once you find out the reason, you will be able to turn off. Ask for the answer when the message first comes through. Take charge.

My book, They Don't See What I See, explains how to see and understand more.

Ghosts - New Home

2008-01-05T23:54:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,
I live in a brand new home. At night I hear noises that sound like moaning, usually in the kitchen, living room at night. right in front of me in my bedroom.

A year ago my parents, sister and I moved into a newly built home. I don't think there are ghosts, but a lot of times I wake up to noises in my bedroom that sound like what I think a ghost would sound like. Noises like someone walking, whistling, thumping. I get so scared I go into my parents room while they're sleeping and fall asleep on their bed.

What do you think? Are there ghosts in my home? Age 9.

Dear Age 9,

Ghosts can live anywhere, including new homes. Ghosts come for many reasons, could be a deceased relative who needs comfort, a person who died suddenly who is related to a neighbor or relative, or just someone who got lost.

Before you can assume you have a ghost you must check out mechanical problems that might cause whistling, sudden noises coming through your pipes, walls, etc.

The walking could be animals thumping on your roof or in your attic.

Good luck!

World Peace Meditation

2008-01-03T02:38:00.000-08:00

2008 World Peace Meditation.

I want to encourage you to meditate for World Peace with other likeminded people for three important and urgent reasons:

1. to halt the entering of fears manifesting today in society.
2. to remember what it's like to be immersed in a loving group.
3. to be engaged in a greater purpose for humanity.

How to meditate in a group:

As if you were on a plane, put your oxygen mask on first to raise your energy higher.

Take three deep breaths slowly while inhaling healing thoughts for yourself, say aloud, I am well.

Relax and enjoy the peaceful feeling entering your mind and body.

Widen your power base by imagining a white light surrounding you and expanding outward to the world for the good of all.

Let all thoughts of time concerns drift away as your body begins to soar above and beyond the negative energies of people, places and things.

Pray for love to enter the hearts of humanity to achieve world peace.

Afterwards spread the love with others through words, hugs, and more prayers.

Cat curls up next to dying patients

2007-12-26T15:35:00.000-08:00

Chicago Tribune, July 26, 2007

Providence, R. I. Oscar the cat seems to have an uncanny knack for predicting when nursing-home patients are going to die, curling up next to them during their final hours.

His accuracy, observed in 25 cases, has led the staff to call family members once he has chosen someone. It usually means they have less than four hours to live.

"He doesn't make too many mistakes. He seems to understand when patients are about to die," Dr. David Dosa said in an interview. He describes the phenomenon in a poignant essay in Thursday's issue of the New England Journal of Medicine.

"Many family members take some solace from it. They appreciate the companionship that the cat provides for their dying loved one," said Dosa, a geriatrician and assistant professor of medicine at Brown University.

The signs

Experts suggest several possible reasons that Oscar seems to be able to predict when nursing-home patients will die. The cat may:

Notice telltale scents when a person is close to death.
Read something into the behavior of nurses.
Be seeking pleasures like a heated blanket placed on a dying person.

Stay or Go With My Lying Husband

2007-12-24T08:24:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I have a strong intuition because I feel things and somewhat just know. However with my husband, it's like a swarm of insecurities and ups and downs trying to trust him. We married before knowing each other for long and our rocky marriage bothers me.

My whole life feels as if it has been a gamble. I love my husband, but his lies hurt me too much. I need to know if it's okay for me to let go of our rocky start and allow a new beginning to happen.

Stay or Go

Dear Stay or Go,

My first hunch is that you are way too insecure and are staying with your husband because you keep waiting for something, anything to change except you. It's time for you to learn how to know when your husband is lying.

Your husband loves to lie about opportunities because he truly wants to take the easy road. If while he is telling you about another BIG opportunity, notice if your head or body hurts. Stop listening and just pay attention if he's getting more animated, louder, and touches you more. Then think: is he making sense or is he just trying to convince himself?

It's time to utilize your intuition in a healthier way. Think like someone you admire. What would he or she do? Then do it.

Trust your instincts.

Why Doesn't My Mother Visit Me?

2007-12-22T05:53:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

My mother has been gone for two years. During the past few days, my siblings are getting visits from her but she doesn't come to me.

I used to see my mother's ghost at night, and during the day I would her voice telling how much she loved me. I wonder if my sister-in-law is seeing my mother now because she’s more spiritually evolved than I am. I’m jealous because she’s not with me. Why is she ignoring me?
Jealous

Dear Jealous,

My hunch is your mother was caring, loving woman. She goes where’s she’s needed. You don’t need her right now, but your siblings do. Your sister-in- law isn’t more spiritually evolved than you, just is more open to seeing her. You're blocking your mother from talking to you with your envy.

Ask your mother to come and she will.

My Grandson's energy is hurting me

2007-12-20T17:55:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I worry so much about my bipolar grandson. He is often hospitalized for his malady and his parents don't know what to do with him any more. I get sick just thinking about him. I am not a healthy woman, and thinking about my grandson makes my blood pressure higher.

What can I do to feel better?

Grandmother

Dear Grandmother,

My hunch is the love for your grandson is allowing him to invade your aura/energy field. He doesn't know this, but whenever he is having a mental crisis, he knows you will do whatever you can to help him, so he thinks about you, possibly even sees you in his mind. You, in turn, take on his pain.

Trust that a higher power can take over. End your prayers with, "I let go and let God take over the care of my grandson now." These thoughts will go to your grandson and both of you will feel better.

Meditating Alone

2007-12-19T15:54:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

Whenever I try to meditate alone, my mind gets busy thinking about what I have to do. When I’m with a group, I have no trouble meditating. My mind stops worrying about my family and friends. Meditating in groups calms me down. How can I stop my mind for wandering when I try to meditate on my own?

The Wanderer

Dear Wanderer,

Fear is the number one obstacle of meditating alone. Are you fearful of encountering something you can’t handle, or that you might get a message too powerful for you to handle?

Walk around your home and notice where you feel calm, better, happier. Sit on the floor, on a chair, or lie in bed and do breathing exercises.

Instead of trying not to feel, think about a nature spot that fills you with radiance; trees, water, sky, etc. Become the nature spot by asking questions: what does it feel like to be a tree? Soon the tree will fade from your mind and you’ll be meditating.

Recommended reading: Meditations from Conversations with God, Book 2 by Neale Donald Walsch.

Why Do I Get Half Messages?

2007-12-18T05:51:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I am searching for someone who can help me to figure out WHY since I was a teen-ager, I have been receiving "messages" that merely let me know something is not right, danger is on the horizon, and other such "half-messages.". A few of these have been a bit more accurate than I am reflecting, but these messages are so half-way that they are down-right frustrating!!

Everyone who knows me well, says I'm aware of many things ahead of time, but no one can tell me why.

Frankly, the way I get this stuff, I would just as soon be left out of it and find out like everyone else - when it actually happens. It's kind of like a gnat buzzing around one's head, on the annoyance factor.

Halfway

Dear Halfway,

You are only getting half the message because you didn't know how to be quiet to ask the right questions.

Why are you the one that is getting the message?
What do you need to know about this half message?
What are you supposed to do with the information.

Then listen and learn what to do next. You may be surprised that the information isn't scary any more, just informative.

I'll be interested to know your results.

New Business location - yes or no?

2007-12-14T02:05:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I am in the process of a major decision right now. With the housing market being so flat right now an ordinary choice has become a bit tricky. I have found a house that would be ideal for my Tai Chi business and give our family more living space. It is very unique and I feel it is being put in my space to enable me to help more people while being more present to my family.

Tricky part - Our house is listed but not sold. The question is will my house sell quick enough so we do not get stuck with two mortgages if we go ahead and purchase the other house?

I am having a difficult time getting neutral enough to be intuitive. Can you give me any insight?

Not Neutral Enough

Dear Not Neutral Enough,

My common sense is for you to wait, but my intuition says you have another choice.

You are not the only one being stymied by the real estate market. Perhaps the present owner of the house you desire would be willing to rent his place to you, with the idea of some of the rent being put to the purchase when you sell your present home.

Intuitively I 'see' you not selling your home for many months - too long to be paying two mortgages. So if the seller isn't willing to go with the rental idea, don't do anything right now.

2008 will be a better year for you. Be patient.

Auras of the Presidential Candidates

2007-12-13T07:00:00.000-08:00

Do your antennas go up when when you watch the Presidential Candidates?

Do you look at their faces to notice if they are happy or angry, especially after someone has attacked him or her?

Do you ever see a dark spot around a candidate's mouth when he speaks? When people lie, their colors are dark and dense.

Does the sound of their voices stir your stomach?

The feelings you get are all ways to view other people's auras.

Any comments?

A Vision Brings Hope About Career Move

2007-12-11T13:11:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

It felt like a dream, but I was wide awake when I heard my grandfather say, "It's time for you to drive a six wheeler."

Was that really my grandfather, or am I making it up?

I always wanted to drive a big truck. I'm 20 years old. What do you think?

Six Wheeler Hopeful

Dear Six Wheeler Hopeful,

Intuitively I feel your vision was a true message from someone who loves you.

My hunch is that you're ready to make a career change:

you'll enjoy the freedom of not being under the thumb of your current boss...
and you'll like driving for a living versus working indoors...
it's a win-win suggestion.

What have you got to lose? Go for it.

A frightening dream or a message...

2007-12-08T07:15:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I dreamed I was being followed by a beautiful woman who changed into a endrogenous person. I couldn't tell if she was a woman or a man. Then s/he (?) started urinating towards the back of my leg. I realized a woman couldn't do that, but I wasn't sure whether this person was a man or woman and why this was happening. Can you tell me what this dream means? Right now I'm scared because I think the dream means someone is following me.

Fearful

Dear Fearful,

Intuitively I feel this dream represents the three aspects of yourself:

the beautiful woman is your spirit, close but not touching...
the endrogenous person represents how divided you feel at this time...
the bewilderment of how a woman can direct her urinating towards the back of your legs...

My hunch is that you are going through a major transition, similar to a midlife change. You don't know who or what you are... you're disconnected from your spirit, your female self, and you are being attacked (the urinating) by this confusion.
The only one who is stalking you is yourself and this is being caused by your confusion about what to do with the rest of your life.

Until you decide what to do, I sense this dream will come in many forms.

I recommend reading Dr. Stephen LaBerge book on Lucid Dreaming and learn how to control and manipulate the outcome of your dreams, in order to harness the healing power of your unconscious.

Mysticism vs. Metaphysics

2007-12-05T08:04:00.000-08:00

Mysticism

Mysticism is a way of 'knowing.' It is a way of 'seeing' outside the realms of the of the ego. Mysticism holds that personal communication or union with the divine which can be achieved through experience, intuition, and/or revelation rather than 'just' through rational thought. ...

Metaphysics

Metaphysics is the study of 'first causes.' The prefix 'Meta' means beyond, higher, after or transcending.

Physics is that which deals with the 'physical' world.

Metaphysics refers to those laws which go beyond the delimitations of time and space and concerns itself with a 'higher' order of laws, or if you will, God's laws.

Jon Mundy, PhD
www.miraclesmagazine.org

The Night Wanderer's Dream

2007-12-03T08:51:00.000-08:00

Dear Ruth,

I've been sleep walking at night wandering through rooms searching for my boyfriend.

I wake up trying to understand why this keeps happening. Can you explain?

Night Wanderer

Dear Night Wanderer,

A few questions for you to consider:

Has your boyfriend become more distant of late?
Do you have a hunch he wants to break up with you?
What feelings do you get when you're together?

Rooms often represent different compartments of the mind. Program your mind before falling asleep to imagine what furnishings are in the rooms - to help you understand yourself more.

The dream may represent your fears and have nothing to do with him.

Mother Teresa's Darkness

2007-12-01T09:39:00.000-08:00

Mother Teresa, Come Be My LIght, by Brian Kolodiejchuk, is a collection of her letters to her spiritual advisors asking for prayers. Throughout the book she writes about the loneliness and darkness she felt.

Hard to believe that Mother Teresa, who in her spiritual life, did so much for so many, suffered from an ailment that many have and do not talk about.

In my work I've had the privilege of reading for many highly spiritual beings, who suffered in the same manner. The higher a spiritual person is, the more difficult it is to find the right mentors.

Have you ever felt you weren't doing enough - and that you were alone?

What did you do to overcome these feelings?

Let's work together to help others.

The Squirrel's Message

2007-11-29T00:33:00.000-08:00

We live on the sixth floor of a high rise building and have never seen a squirrel on our patio before. He was the fattest squirrel I'd ever seen. It wasn't the time of the year for a squirrel to be pregnant, and I wondered if she/he was sick.

The fat squirrel came three times the first day searching for food. My husband banged the window and the squirrel ran away. The second time he made a loud noise, but the squirrel was more stubborn and just stared at him. Each time the squirrel got more daring and stayed longer.

The third day I waited but he never came back.

As an intuitive I had a hunch this was a message from nature for me. The three symbols that stood out in this experience were:
#1. The squirrel was overly fat.
#2. The persistance of the animal.
#3. At first the noises bothered him/her, but his search went beyond his fears.

I pondered where the symbols would fit into my life and the answer came swiftly. I'd been too lethargic about writing often in this blog. I needed to be persistent, pay less attention to the disruptions in my life, and lastly I needed to pay more attention to my weight.

Have you ever had a nature message? Did you wonder what it meant? Write me.

WHAT IS ENERGY HEALING?

2007-11-09T14:52:00.000-08:00

Our entire body is one big energy field. Hidden beneath the physical surface, are levels of emotions, thought patterns and learned beliefs. Imbalances and energy blockages on these levels manifest as emotional discomforts and even physical illnesses.

The most effective way to treat an illness is to uncover its root cause and begin the healing process from the deepest emotional level. Conventional medicine takes a different approach to healing and can encounter difficulties in determining the actual cause of a disease. Energy healing compliments traditional treatments offering a holistic solution encompassing body, mind and spirit.

www.infinityinst.com

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anais Nin

Ghost humor

2007-11-09T11:33:00.000-08:00

LIFE AFTER DEATH:

"Do you believe in life after death?" the boss asked one of his new employees.

"Yes sir!," the new employee replied.

"Well, then, that makes everything just fine,” the boss went on, “After you left early yesterday to go to your grandmother’s funeral, she stopped in to see you!”

Loving Relations

2007-11-07T06:43:00.000-08:00

Discover a new way to trust love

Hunches come unexpectedly through the imagination.

Example: you suddenly feel fear.

Do you:

let the fear consume you?
try to tune into who or what caused your fear?
allow your intuition to give you more insights?

Correct answer is 3.

P.S. If there's anything else we can do to make your use of the site more enjoyable or relevant, please contact ruth@ruthberger.com

Psychic Training

2007-11-04T13:39:00.001-08:00

Do only a few special people have the ability to do psychic readings?

Most knowledge comes to everyone through the five senses.

Some knowledge reaches us directly bypassing the five sensory organs.

Everyone has the ability to be clairvoyant, clairaudient, and clairsensing.

Clairvoyant: seeing a future event
Clairaudient: hearing a message that bypasses your five senses.
Clairsending: sensing like an animal

As any field of endeavor, reading books about ESP, taking intuitive training classes, and training will help you grow intuitively.

प्स्य्चिक Training

2007-11-04T13:31:00.000-08:00

कैन इ लीर्ण हाउ तो देवेलोप

Loving Relationships

2007-11-02T12:26:00.000-07:00

I've been going to classes on psychic development and thought I was pretty good. I thought my relationship was going to last forever, but suddenly it's over. My boyfriend told me he no longer loves me the way he used to.

We were so close, together every day. He'd call me as many as 6 times a day and now he doesn't want to talk to me.

What happened?

Psychic Student

Ruth: Psychics, therapists, nurses need to be careful not to fall in love with their patients, because when the individual is healed, he doesn't need you any more.

Look back and think about how much you gave and how little you got.

This relationship may resurrect when he needs you again. Be more aware of how imbalanced your relationship is.

2007-11-02T08:54:00.000-07:00

Ghost Talk

The first time I remember seeing ghosts was when I was 15.

Two ghosts kept visiting me in the middle of the night. They frightened me.

Now I've learned they were trying to help me.

Ruth Berger.blogspot.com

2007-11-02T08:39:00.000-07:00